Dear April Masini," I started dating him, but he's divorced with two kids and it's not just me and this guy in the relationship - it's me, this guy, and the two kids!
Of course, you do have to be careful when there are kids involved because if things don't work out it's not just you and the guy who get hurt -- it's the kids, too, and since they've already gone through a divorce, it's not their first time to be burned.
However, it's not an insurmountable obstacle, and it even has benefits. Here are some starters for dating dads -- and they apply both ways, to guys dating single moms, too.
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With the US divorce rate still lingering around 50% for first marriages, many children have experienced their parents’ divorce by the time they are eighteen.
The Dos and Don'ts of Dating Dads: Next Step: Operation Co-Parenting with Different Styles: So, now you've got the dating a dad thing down, and you're actually enjoying having future step-kids and maybe you're even engaged.
But you see a flashing yellow light because you and your boyfriend parent differently.
Don’t assume that kids will understand the need for a “crazy phase” of dating.
They are dealing with their own issues of loss, betrayal, adjustment, trust- just to name a few.
Parents need to make sure before things get tricky that children understand their continued importance to them, the freedom for the child(ren) to continue a close loving relationship with the ex-spouse (despite any personal misgivings) and the possibility of new people in the parent’s life.
Your attitudes and behaviors on dating will be a model for your children.
Signed, Proceeding with Caution " Dear Proceeding with Caution: Your concern that you're dating someone with children means that you're probably a great candidate to be a second wife and step-mom, as well as a first time mom.