"I didn't really notice him at first because he had a beard, and beards weren't my thing," she says.But they exchanged a few texts, then graduated to friendly lunches.It could have been a slow-building tension that brought coldness and distance.
"Older generations saw work as a separate place," says Renee Cowan, Ph.
D., an assistant professor at the University of Texas at San Antonio who studies office relationships.
"Nowadays work and life are very integrated." In that light, these stats aren't surprising: 37 percent of people have dated a coworker, according to a 2015 survey by Career Builder, and 30 percent of those relationships ended in marriage (proving that an office romance is not always a disaster).
Still, dating at work can be a personal and professional minefield.
"The policy seemed to be: If you're dating and still doing your job, we don't care," he says.
The truth is, "even if there are rules, people will hook up anyway," admits Green.But the caution was worth it: Five years after that first date, he proposed.where you eat.) But as more Americans postpone marriage until their careers are established—and as hours get longer, with smartphones blurring work and play—it makes sense that attitudes are changing."Even today a boss-subordinate relationship is viewed as strategic on the woman's part," says Rebecca Chory, Ph.D., who studies workplace interactions at Maryland's Frostburg State University."I did not ask, and I spent the next six months wondering if every work email he sent was a subtle invitation to get at it again," says Mia, 30, a management consultant in New York.