In last week’s post, How to have cybersex, I talked about how to use the wonders of the Internet to share intimacy with your partner over a text-based instant messaging system.This week continues the general theme with an introduction to having Webcam sex.Again, you ned not necessarily dive straight into getting naked–there’s a lot of foreplay that can happen with your clothes on! Talk about how you would like your partner to touch you.
There is something that’s really, really exciting, I think, about describing what I would like to watch my partner do to herself, and then seeing her do it.And, on the flip side, when a partner describes to me what she would like to see me do, it can really help me to learn what turns her on!It’s OK to feel nervous if you’ve never done it before, and it’s OK to say “Wow, I’ve never done this before, so I’m feeling a little nervous! And you don’t need to jump straight into taking your clothes off. One fun, easy way to get started is to talk to your partner about how you like to be touched.Describe where you like to feel hands on your body, and how hard, and then demonstrate by moving your own hands over yourself.You can tease your partner by drawing out the experience; tell your partner to get really close to the edge of orgasm and then stop, for example, to bring out a heightened sense of arousal and to tease him or her.
You can do this for an extended time, having your partner tease himself or herself multiple times, then switch roles and have your partner tell you what to do to tease yourself.The fun in this isn’t just in taking control (though that is a lot of fun, no doubt about it); it’s also in using it to explore how you and your partner react.Pay close attention, if you’re telling your partner what to do, to your partner’s reactions.A lot of folks like to set up on a bed, which can be a little tricky if you’re using a laptop with a built-in Webcam.small table or desk at the foot of the bed can make for a good place to set your camera or computer.You can find cheap USB cameras for as little as in computer stores, with the more popular models typically weighing in at around 0 or so. What you will want is a good frame rate (look for 30 frames per second) and a camera that says it’s USB 2.0 (older USB 1 cameras typically offer highly compressed, pixelated images and poor motion).