Maybe this message will be different than all the others. Perhaps this email will finally be the one that doesn't have you contemplating the potential rise in serial killers populating your neighborhood. If this sounds familiar, don't get too down on your luck. You have the most beautiful brown eyes I ever seen. " You log off, wondering if online dating was ever a good idea to begin with.At the end of the day, quality men are attracted to positivity, not women who come across as disgruntled, overly picky and jaded.
After all, most people’s profiles don’t exactly give you a ton of material to work with, do they? Ask yourself if what you’re writing sounds completely original.So how do you cobble together something from a pile of nothing? If not, the person you’re contacting probably has 10 emails just like yours sitting on the computer screen. Even though you’re writing to someone out of the blue, do so with the belief that this person would be lucky to have you. Your profile ultimately does the selling; your email just has to pique their interest.But when it comes to acting on that statement, most of them don’t. In fact, I think I’m posting this on JDaters Anonymous.I could be making a vast generalization, but to an extent, this doesn’t matter. It subconsciously creates the image of a woman who has not had the best of luck with men in the past.
By changing this statement to, "the perfect man for me is smart, fun and handsome," the perception completely changes.
Remember, that’s why she wrote it – because she wants you to get to know her, not because she wants to be told for the umpteenth time that she’s hot. NOT the thing you like the most, NOT the thing you find most attractive, NOT the thing you have in common. It might be how she doesn’t know how to program her Ti Vo. Yes, you think it’s cool that she also likes Robert De Niro movies and skiing in Vail. The sillier and more over-the-top your email, the funnier it’ll be.
Men who treat women as unique and interesting individuals stand a much greater shot of receiving a response. The most interesting tidbit in her profile is the thing that sounds like it couldn’t have been written by anybody else in the world. Whatever it is, take her quirky tidbit and turn it into your pickup line. The most effective way to catch someone’s attention in an initial email is with fiction. Because the truth, as we’ve established, is boring. But does any of that sound like a good pickup line to you? A good joke doesn’t require an explanation – it’s obviously a joke.
If you want to stand out from the crowd, reveal your personality in a unique way.
Instead, let's change the phrasing above to, "When I'm not out with my friends on a Friday night, I love curling up under the covers and watching a scary movie (any suggestions?
)." In this revised statement, I have turned a cliché into a statement that has personality, flirts with the reader, provides bait and discusses the type of movies that I am specifically into.