First it's just kissing, then it's fondling, then hands are making their way under clothes, and before you know it, everybody wants more more more. Yeah, it may be an old stereotype, but it's no secret that, as a teenager especially, it is often really hard to control ourselves physically.
Review your American history, beds in colonial America had previsions for bundling boards so there could be intimacy with out intercourse during courtship the, Amish still practice the costom.Do an Internet search on (((Bundling) AND Colonial) AND America) No, and I want you to know why." "I was better off single, I hate the old man I'm married to." I think you need to decide how far too far is and then never go past that point (if you think kissing is getting pretty boarder line you are probably right) I think we should control our physical contact more because once you touch your lips together, there is a rapid progression into the areas of intamacy which should be left to marriage. I strongly disagree, you can do a whole lot of sinning with all your clothes on.And let's not "draw lines", once a person makes a boundary it becomes the temptation to cross. Do you really mean that a husband should not desire his wife, or have sexual feeling for her?Courtship is about getting to know a person that may be suitable for marriage. Lewis pointed out, there may be times when a husband needs to encourage his sexual instinct and desire.** Jack, where is this in scripture? Alan, "Courting" means they are NOT husband and wife yet. Pharisee-Anything quoted as truth that is outside of God's word is truth mingled with a lie. CS Lewis isn't to be quoted because Jesus said, "Thy word is truth," No CS Lewis's words. I don't believe it's okay to smoke Marijuana if you "don't inhale", nor do I believe most people can smoke cigarettes without getting addicted. Each person must decide if they can be true to themselves, their partner, AND God. A quick peck on the cheek is harmless but those long lingering ones on lips is asking for trouble. Men tend to me more easily aroused than women, so godly men should know their limit and draw the line before whatever excites them sexually.
Use the time to know them as your closest friend, that is what marriage is about. Treat them like they're your brother or sister, because until you say I do, that's exactly what they are in Christ. I thought the Apostle Paul said to abstain from every form of fleshly lust"This certainly seems to indicate that you don't think a man should be encouraged in his desire for his wife. I find it rare that a woman or a man can be in a "courting" relationship without considering sexual involvement. A quick hug is harmless, but those long lingering hugs may lead to problems. Women can kiss without being aroused as they tend to be more "romantic" and think it is sweet to kiss. It is when marriage[or dating] is based on sexual attraction that problems arise, I feel.
Romans 3: 20 tells us that as sinners we come short of the glory of God.
However, we have an advocator, a righteous judge who truly judges and corrects..forgives us from all our unrighteousness. When I kiss my mother or sister closed mouth on the cheek, it is sacred.
Let's talk about getting physical during dating relationships. Everybody has an opinion, from "don't even make eye contact" to "you can do anything but have sex." How is a Christian teen supposed to know what to do? First things first though, if your parents have said that you are not allowed to date, then you must obey their rules.
Proverbs 1:8 says, "Hear, my son, your father's instruction, and forsake not your mother's teaching..." Colossians says, "Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord." Are we cool on that? The old cliché that "one thing leads to another" is really true when it comes to physical intimacy.
Anyone out there who has ever just kissed knows what Kissing leads to. SOME Christians have better control overthemselves than others. They normally require a little more than a kiss to become excited. Lewis pointed out, there may be times when a husband needs to encourage his sexual instinct and desire.** Jack, where is this in scripture? Much more important is the respect and knowledge of whether the potential mate is a God-fearing person.."Do not be unequally yoked". I think if a couple is courting, sexual desire is already there.