For these people, it may be wise to consider other methods.Some of the modern methods of finding a mate include internet or online dating, professional matchmaking services, and speed dating.
Internet dating is currently the most popular alternative way to meet singles. There are secular dating websites that allow you to limit your search to Christians, and they (like the Christian sites) often let you specify the denomination you are looking for as well. (Please note that Got Questions Ministries does not personally endorse any particular secular or Christian dating service or site.) e Harmony is unique in that it uses an extensive personality test to provide customized matches to each person, though each user must only choose from the matches given to him or her—they cannot communicate with anyone they choose.
Most of the other sites (Christian and secular) provide various ways that men and women can quickly assess compatibility before beginning any form of communication.
And, finally, as believers, we should be able to stand on our own two feet, relying on the Lord to fulfill us rather than feeling a need to be married in order to be whole.
Once we have these common struggles sorted out, we can begin to pursue a woman, or be pursued by a man, with an eye towards marriage.
Is it possible we are being too picky, looking for the fairy-tale prince or princess, and by doing so, limiting the possibilities of what God may know is best for us and which we have not yet considered?
Are we not being picky enough, forgetting that God calls all Christians to marry only other Christians (2 Corinthians ), or are we considering someone who is stuck in a serious, life-altering sin that could endanger the marriage?As in all decisions, we should ask God to direct us clearly.It can be difficult to meet single Christian men and women, especially if most of our friends have already married.There should be a balance, as we remember that God is perfectly loving (Ephesians ; 1 John -18) and perfectly sovereign over every situation, desire and need (Psalm 1; Romans -39).Unless we are rebelling against God, we can be sure that He is not punishing us through our singleness and that He is very likely bringing the right man or woman our way…eventually!When it comes to Christian dating, we also send our members a weekly newsletter with dating tips and relationship advice on everything from great first date ideas to when it's time to introduce your date to your Church.