Gena says to avoid ‘xxx’s, meaningless numbers (or meaningful ones if it’s the number 69), anything like ‘sex’, ‘dirty’, ‘hot’, or equally ‘death’ and ‘rage’.
The more you agonise over it, the worse it’s going to get. Also think about the kind of person you want to meet and what you want to get out of the relationship. The strange thing about online dating is that the vast majority are striving to look normal.That is why the only way to stand out from the crowd is to be yourself. The more you use cliché’s, the more you will be passed over. So that means: no candlelit dinners, walks along the beach, ‘I like all sports’ (you can’t like all sports, lawn bowls? Say which you do really like), shopping (generic), eating out (generic).There are a lot of don’ts out there but to help you on your way Our Graham found this gem of a list from Glamour.com’s dating blogger, Gena Kaufman.It picks out all those words that are best avoided in your username.Let’s talk about the ‘not-so-good’ ideas first – the common mistakes that most of us make while choosing a profile name for ourselves.
Too sexy references: While most date sites won’t allow this, a few cannot check clever spellings and a few don’t acre.
Women read into tiny details so such names as ‘Bond Looking For Vesper’ can be perceived as your quest for the ‘perfect’ woman and may make many women turn their backs on you thinking that you have way too high expectations.
Others may simply find you too very committed-oriented and might get turned off at the very start. You don’t even know what kind of women is reading your profile. Time for the good ideas now: Age and location: ‘Dennis Ontario30’, ‘Robin1979Alberta’, ‘Mike29Vancouver’ are some good examples of letting singles especially women know your age and location at the same time. Name and job: ‘Hockey Player34’, ‘Professor Luke’ and, ‘Banker Sheldon’ are fantastic ways to let potential dates know your name and what you do.
And while those micro-decisions seem unimportant, they add up and do matter, because you’re only as good as the profile you craft.
So how do you create the kind of online identity that will land you a first date?
DO: BE THOUGHTFUL ABOUT YOUR USERNAME People gloss over this one too often, and maybe it’s because we’re in a time when people tend to use their real names, or variations thereof, in many of their online interactions. Remember back to when picking your AIM username was a serious task?