"Courting" is the theme on the new season of TLC’s hit reality show "19 Kids and Counting," which stars the Duggar family and premieres tonight.Two Duggar daughters – Jessa, 20, and Jill, 22 – begin relationships with their respective beaus, Ben Seewald, 18, and Derick Dillard, 25.It’s fun to be involved in the whole process in choosing it.” See an exclusive preview of the new season of TLC's "19 Kids & Counting," premiering April 1 (9 p.m.
“That way there’s no regrets.” Rule 6: To court a Duggar girl, you have to go through Dad.
While the four oldest Duggar daughters – Janna, Jill, Jessa and Jinger – wrote the book “Growing Up Duggar: It’s All About Relationships,” there is one person they turn to before they will even consider a courtship: Dad.
Jim Bob and Michelle say there is something special about the way brothers size up a potential suitor. The Duggars agreed, but only if Jim Bob and Michelle are included on every text. “It’s neat to see their conversations,” says Jim Bob, adding that the couple texts about everything from scripture to their future as a family and ideas on parenting.
“The brothers can see how they treat mom and dad, or see whether they show the sisters respect,” Michelle says, adding that each brother has given Jessa their opinion of Ben. For the most part, Jim Bob and Michelle don’t chime in. Jim Bob describes a text where Jessa was asking Ben to call her on the phone and wrote: “Give me a ring when you get time.” At that point, dad texted back: “No rings yet.” (Jim Bob says he added a smiley face at the end.) The couple is allowed to talk on the phone privately for an hour each night. The Duggars ask their daughters and their beaus to set their own boundaries on the physical side, and to share those boundaries with them.
Adds Michelle: “Before you get emotionally attached, you want to know who they are deep inside.
That’s easier when you have more eyes looking out for you.In Jessa and Ben’s case, the couple decided to give each other hugs when they are greeting or saying goodbye, or posing for a picture.“But they have committed to waiting for the first kiss till marriage,” Jim Bob says.Ivory French casket with scenes of romances – possibly a courtship gift.Courtship is the systematic process that one undergoes in order to ensure compatibility with a lifelong partner.And just like a high stakes basketball game, the Duggars’ style of courting involves plenty of rules, plus refereeing done under the watchful eyes of dad Jim Bob and mom Michelle.