Oh, okay let's go, something like that, so"¦ JENNY BROCKIE: Okay, I just wonder the extent, Sophie, to which the physical, the sexual attraction kept you going during that time when you didn't have any language, so I'm just interested in how big the physical attraction was for both of you?
SOPHIE SONG: Well, the thing is basically his language level was very limited, which obviously caused a lot of problems, but he still could convey humour and still could convey his personality which I think is quite unusual amongst people with quite limited English because of that warm humour, because of the good personality, I did find Han very handsome, very attractive person. You're originally from Indonesia, who do you prefer to date and why? At first I didn't expect to date Caucasian men as well, I always think oh, I'm going to go out with Asian men for the rest of my life. YULIANA SUNARTO: Because I thought they look so different than me and I don't understand how their mindset works and then I started to work at this global bank and there's a lot of people from the UK and then at that time I just broke up with my ex-partner and then it's time for a change and I got a lot of attention from them.
HAN SONG: I could speak barely, I could just say hi, how are you, I'm fine thank you and you? JENNY BROCKIE: Okay, so when you met Sophie how did you feel about her? HAN SONG: Yes, like when I saw her and she wasn't, she was wearing like a beautiful dress, it was like vintage dress and I thought wow, she's beautiful.
He also says there are evolutionary reasons why people of mixed-race would be seen as the most attractive. I've certainly been on dates with people of different races but I've just found that I had a better connection with people of Caucasian heritage. RUDO BANYA: I think I like the contrast, the difference in skin tone, the ebony and the ivory, I quite like contrast. RUDO BANYA: It's a mixture of a whole lot of things, it's not just physical and it's not just sexual.JENNY BROCKIE: Welcome everyone, good to have you with us tonight. RUDO BANYA: I really don't have a rational explanation as to why, I just am. I think personality wise as well, certain interests and things - I just tend to find that I connect better with Caucasian men. LINDA BENZ: Would be for darker men, African men predominantly is probably where I'm sort of more drawn to.But, but to be honest, most of the African men that I have met or got to know, I found them really interesting. MIKE MIOCEVICH: I have dated, I have dated, you know, white girls, mainly because in my area in Western Australia, you didn't really have that kind of option, especially around in my area around near the coast. Mainly, mainly for Felicia Ashard, Claire Huxtable. JENNY BROCKIE: Whoopi Goldberg as well, okay, so you saw Whoopi and you thought mmm?There's been be intellectual stimulation from them, the cultural differences. LINDA BENZ: Cultures, I like different cultures in different backgrounds and it just interests me. But now that things are changing, demographics are changing around Australia, it's really great to see, you know, that kind of thing happening and more. MIKE MIOCEVICH: In the movie Burglar, everybody, basically we were watching it over at a friend's place and everybody was like man this is the funniest film, you know, we thought it was absolutely fantastic but I thought that she was really attractive. SOPHIE SONG: I came to be attracted to him over time.I won't lose anything, it was just hi and then she was, she said hi back to me, very friendly, which I didn't expect at all. HAN SONG: Because I was, I grew up in Korea and in Korea, not many Caucasian people in Korea, even though there are some English teachers, I can't meet them personally so I thought they are very hard people to be with, especially as Asian.
So"¦ JENNY BROCKIE: So you didn't expect to date a white woman? So I had a kind of fantasy that I want to date a Caucasian woman. JENNY BROCKIE: But you were going out during this time, yes? JENNY BROCKIE: So it begs the question of what kept you going during the six months then?
JENNIFER LUNDQUIST, UNIVERSITY OF MASSACHUSETTS: Yeah, well it's an interesting question.
Most people don't explicitly set out to date one race or another and they end up falling into it and what demographers find is that there are certain characteristics that interracial couples tend to have compared to same race couples.
Rudo, let me start with you, you have Southern African heritage, what kinds of guys are you attracted to? JENNY BROCKIE: Now you're married to a white Australian man? JENNY BROCKIE: And you've never dated an African man? JENNY BROCKIE: Okay, Linda, what about you, who do you date? JENNY BROCKIE: And what are you drawn to about African men? MIKE MIOCEVICH: I prefer to date black women, so from all around the world, you know, any kind of culture.
LINDA BENZ: I'd have to say I like the skin tone too, you know? JENNY BROCKIE: Would you look at other races or just black women? She just sings to, she was just like my genuine class and like everybody else is like Bill Cosby's really funny, but when I watched the TV show, Felicia Ashard really kind of stood out to me and yeah, the other one is Whoopi Goldberg.
Ida Harding migrated to Australia from Ghana at the age of four.