If your partner is reluctant to make future plans that include you (vacations, visits to see family, etc.), it could be a sign that he/she sees your fling as temporary and isn’t ready to settle into a serious relationship. ” conversation is pretty much universally awkward, but it’s almost always necessary.It’s also a good way to gauge how your partner perceives your relationship.
Speaking of exes, one way to know for sure that your partner isn’t ready to commit to you is if he/she is still in love with someone else.Dating expert April Beyer says you can tell if your partner has really moved on if he/she has stopped crying, whining, and generally speaking about how his/her ex was hurtful.Someone who doesn’t bother to ask about your family, friends, or career but is happy to unhook your bra probably isn’t interested in getting serious with you, now or ever.(That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t keep having casual sex — it just means you shouldn't expect it to turn into a relationship.)Maybe he/she doesn’t want to bring you to the annual family Thanksgiving potluck because you've only been dating for two weeks. But if months go by and you’ve yet to meet a single one of your partner’s pals or relatives, you have a right to be suspicious. Carol Lieberman tells Her Campus readers, the fact that your partner is avoiding these introductions could mean that he/she is embarrassed by something about the relationship or that he/she is dating someone else at the same time.” I answered in the affirmative, and we were official.
Thirteen years later, I often find myself longing for the simplicity of those days.If your experience in the dating game is anything like mine, it seems that no one is certain what he or she wants romantically.If you're unsure whether your partner is in it for the long haul or just a casual-sex-possibly-dating-other-people-on-the-side-no-big-deal type thing, we’ve got some advice.You want to be with someone who a) genuinely wants to see you and b) goes out of his/her way to do so.Basically, as relationship expert Isiah Mc Kimmie writes in Cosmopolitan Australia, in a healthy relationship both parties need to make an effort.If the person you're seeing is still reeling from a bad breakup, he/she just may not be ready for a healthy relationship with you.