In the annals of “things that definitely don’t matter when you’re 70”, nothing is more irrelevant to marital happiness than height. If one partner is chronically unemployed or in debt, relations can get strained. If your partner can’t understand what you’re talking about or lacks the maturity to try, he’s a waste of time. If someone is morbidly obese, he’s probably not making it to age 70. ) But one thing that I’ve never really gotten – after 10 years as a dating coach – was women’s obsession with height. However, “when the author randomized the information as well to see what would come up by chance, he found something surprising: left to chance, the wives were taller in 7.8 percent of couples— twice as many as before. The author of the Jezebel piece is 5’11” and had a very healthy and refreshing take on height: I never felt I was making some kind of concession by dating men shorter than me — I just dated people I was attracted to.
Many of the girls I’ve talked to about it don’t even really consider height.
They’re attracted to a guy based on how he carries himself and how he treats her, not on how large the height discrepancy happens to be.
I think it comes down to three principles, all three of which can be worked into your own mindset and behaviors.
Not once in the time I’ve known them (about eight years) have I heard them mention their height as a disadvantage.
It would be like a male millionaire holding out for a female millionaire who makes more than he does. He’s gotta have all of those things, plus be in the 15% of men who are six feet tall? Please read the article here and share your thoughts below. It increased my dating pool dramatically, so I no longer felt like I had to go on dates with borderline douchebags just because they’re tall enough.
Let me tell you, there are a lot of really amazing men on this side of six feet.
An article on Jezebel discusses a report from the Atlantic that illustrates that the average height differential between 4600 married American couples was six inches and that the wife was taller in 3.8% of couples.
Yet some short women discriminate against average sized (5’7-5’11”) men. In order to find a guy six inches taller, I’d have to find a guy who was 6’5.
Ironically, my two shortest friends are the ones with no problems getting girlfriends or attracting girls.
They even have problems with girls in their lives fighting over them. What is it about these dudes that enables them to attract so many women?
Unfortunately these dream scenarios never went down – until I saw her in the grocery store one day. I was excited to converse with her and could sense that she liked me a little bit but for some reason I felt unworthy. “Sorry I’m dressed like this.” Granted I was dressed pretty poorly but the grocery store isn’t where people expect you to dress to impress. Eventually we both decided it’d be best to end the conversation and we headed in opposite directions shaking our heads. As men we believe we’re supposed to be taller and stronger than the women we seek to attract.