I am not saying get him to pursue you by acting unavailable, I’m saying actually be unavailable.By that, I mean fill your life with fun, meaningful activities. Some women are happy to get down to business the night they meet; others will wait weeks or months before doing the deed.
At this point, you may notice that he starts pulling away until he eventually pulls a swift Houdini on you, vanishing into the abyss without even uttering “abracadabra” to give you some warning!While guys enjoy the pursuit, they hate it when you act in a way that is deliberately trying to get them to chase you. And to be clear, that is not what I’m talking about here.So yes you want men to pursue you, and if you are confident this will naturally happen, but you don’t want to intentionally get him to chase you because this is just neediness all dressed up.When you are truly confident and independent, he won’t take you for granted, he won’t vanish for days at a time, he won’t tell you he “doesn’t want a relationship” and continue treating you as girlfriend anyway – instead, he will lock it down because he’ll be too scared someone else will snatch you up if he doesn’t!When you are so desperate for his approval and so accommodating to his schedule, then he doesn’t feel a need to step up or lock you down because…why should he?
What it really comes down to is being a woman who values herself and is confident in who she is.
And do not cancel any of these fun, meaningful activities just because he calls and wants to see you.
When you have a fulfilling life of your own that exists completely separate from him, you will automatically be seen as having great value.
My schedule was more flexible than his so it made sense that I should work around his schedule, right?
While in theory that makes sense, in reality, Craig started pulling away more and more.
When your happiness is rooted in all sorts of things, not just him, you will never have to watch what you say or do for fear of coming off as needy because you will never be needy.