They claim that it is because of women like me, who perpetuate this ugly reality, that older women cannot find men. All the young, drop-dead gorgeous women accompanying older men were not dragged there by force; I can assure you.
So when a beautiful woman in her 20s or 30s meets a man who is in his 50s and has the world in the palm of his hand, that is sexy and alluring to her.
would have you believe, is evolving into an elaborate charade of deception: Everybody is petrified of giving someone the “wrong idea.” Men are impolite to the point of viciousness to ensure that the women they just hooked up with understand they don’t want a relationship.
Women “self-objectify” in profile pictures to get men interested, renouncing the “wrong idea” that they might want something more than a one-night stand.
What counts is that they are sitting across from a woman who is beautiful, intelligent and alive.
She won't complain about her ex; she won't moan about how tired she is because she was doing housework all day with three whining children, and then had to prepare dinner and take the dog to the vet. This woman is out to have a good time and then come home and have wild and passionate sex on the kitchen counter or the bathroom floor. And before some of you tell me about your strong sex drive after 40, consider this: Her 25-year-young spirit comes in a shape of a 25-year-young, coin-bounce-off-ass body. But hiding your head in the sand and insisting that "real men" don't want younger women, they want an equal is naïve at best and detrimental to your own love life at worst.
That brings me to why I can’t take on women as clients; and no, misogyny has nothing to do with it.
In this tough singles market, if a man pays top dollar for a matchmaker, he expects nothing less than a 29-year-old model. They will work for you to produce the best results in minimum time.2. No matter what your hobby, you can find a group and meet people (read "men") that share your interests.3. Whether it's dinner with girlfriends or a quiet evening by yourself at a local pub, GET OUT.
Warning: This will seriously piss off most women and possibly some men. Usually this is the part where older (read 40 ) women accuse me of being misogynistic. All you have to do is walk into one of the numerous upscale restaurants or clubs of New York City.
My clients are successful wealthy men who normally ask to be introduced to much younger beautiful women. The reason successful older men prefer to date younger women is because THEY CAN. His age becomes as irrelevant to her as last year's fashion.
As a result, I cannot find a husband for a 47-year-old schoolteacher with two kids and three mortgages. You won't meet anyone sitting at home and complaining about not being able to meet anyone.
So where does it leave a relatively pretty, average 40-something woman who is young at heart (even with three kids and a dog and a cat), and is looking for Mr. Is she doomed to a life of singledom and loneliness? As for me, my over-40 girlfriends and I will cry into our martinis, lamenting this unjust man’s world, and then I will go back to work finding matches for clients whose ideal love is two generations removed.
Reach back two decades and you are more likely to find a man who can’t fathom swiping through a series of pictures to find a mate for the night.