Don't pressure her and don't pretend your intentions are less than you know they are.
And that's never easy., with all of the affection, understanding, support and love that comes with it.
And that's when I asked myself this very same question and I realized that I didn't like the answer. So how do you know if you're ready for a relationship before you start one with either the wrong guy or Mr. "He'd Be Great, If Only..."If you're showing any of these warning signs, it means you're not ready for a relationship and you have some work to do on yourself before you can be in a healthy, happy relationship with someone else: is off.
Just because you want a relationship doesn't mean you're ready for one. That one's tough to answer, because it entails really looking at yourself and your beliefs, attitudes and behaviors in a real, open, and honest way.
It's what I've been waiting for a real relationship.
H asks, "I'm deeply drawn to a woman that just left a long term relationship and she says she's 'not ready' for another. "H, welcome to the world of emotional unavailability!
I'm willing to stand by her as a good friend until she's ready but she seems hurt. It's a special, precious time and place for someone who's just left a major relationship and is likely consumed with feelings of grief, loss and introspection.
If you like her enough, if you like yourself enough, you'll express your sincere interests and keep your distance.
Ask her to check in with you every once in a while if she's interested in staying in touch – keep it friendly but very casual until and unless she can tell you otherwise.
If you want a serious relationship, you'll need to put your time and energy in a place and person that is ready, available and equally willing – otherwise, you shoot yourself in the foot and potentially interrupt someone's healing journey in unforgivable or simply painful ways.
If she's that important to you, it's best to tell her you're giving her the space she needs to heal, and then let her be.
Basically, you’re being too accommodating of their needs and ignoring your own.