But what is really at the root of my informal dating tutorial is the mass panic about college hookup culture, which is way overblown.Every few months there seems to be a renewed hysteria surrounding Generation X's inability to commit to relationships, and every few months I endeavor to debunk this hookup culture myth. "Hookup culture" refers from anything from kissing to sex So don't freak out, parents. A very small percentage of college kids are participating in this hookup culture Less than 15 percent of students "hookup"—meaning anything ranging from kissing to sex—more than twice per year.3.
And besides, there will be plenty of time post-graduation for awkward first dates arranged by mutual friends or a myriad of dating apps (OKCupid, Coffee Meets Bagel, Tinder and Hinge to name a few).They'll sit and explain their jobs and their majors and what they like to do for fun.highlighted a class at Boston College in which the professor offers extra credit to students if they ask another student out on a date.(The date is mandatory in another one of her seminars.) The rules: it must be a legitimate love interest; they must ask in person (not via text, etc.); the love interest cannot know the date is an assignment; and the date must last 45-90 minutes and cannot involve any sexual contact.An informal survey of my female friends found that each had been asked out at least one time by a boy she'd never even kissed before in college.
These dates, if accepted, succeeded or failed at about the same rate as a random-hookup-turned-consistent-relationship did.But many of those encounters result in dates and, eventually, relationships.As Richard Mc Anulty, an associate professor in psychology at the University of North Carolina at Charlotte points out in the article, the majority of college students actually practice "serial monogamy," in which they have consecutive, exclusive relationships.I often felt in college that hanging out with someone I liked among friends allowed me to get to know him better than going on a 45-minute date alone ever would.Spending time in extracurriculars or in social situations with a crush always made me feel much more comfortable with him once we actually began to go out and a lot more sure that I wanted to be with him.The dates are still there, they just come later—after college kids are sure they're interested in someone else and that there's a possibility of a longer commitment.