I don’t think we can eliminate this, nor should we feel the need to eliminate all schemas or judgements altogether.
Likewise to my roommate, I found similar details in her bio that I liked: she was also an athlete, also the middle child in her family, and her Facebook page consisted of pictures of her with lots of friends and family.
Schemas played a large role in us choosing to become roommates.
The same concept goes for the role of being the middle child: understanding, cooperative, independent.
In retrospect, I think what made me most drawn to my roommate was the layout of her Facebook page and the photos she decided to share.
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Some forums can only be seen by registered members. The way I went about finding my roommate consisted of joining a “Tufts Roommate Finder” page on Facebook. At Tufts, there is the option to choose your roommate coming into freshman year. Like I said, we really like each other but it’s only been a few weeks, and I don’t think either one of us is up for making life changes for the relationship at this point, but we both want to see where it goes. ”“It’s common knowledge that dating or sleeping with a roommate is a terrible idea. It’s too soon for us to be really serious, but I do like her a lot. We’re both 21, live in a house with three other people, and there’s a strict ‘no couples’ rule when we seek roommates.In hindsight, I think what I was most looking for in a roommate was someone that was like me.