I, too, have heard many times from Iranian men (or men from any of the middle-eastern cultures for that matter) that they are happy to date American or non-Iranian women, but that they would never marry one.I believe that some of this is related to the perception that they will more likely find a virgin in the more conservative and traditional of the two cultures (the middle-eastern one), but that it also relates to cultural similarities.
Whether or not we establish barriers (social, cultural, familial), teenagers will be teenagers and they will do what they want to do, often without our knowledge.The MOST RESPONSIBLE things for parents to do is to teach whatever values they choose, but to also “keep it real” and not ignore things in the hopes that they just won’t exist or happen. It’s difficult to change stereotypes that have been around for decades or centuries perhaps.In line with Rubin’s assertion, “Family plays an important role in enforcing sexual conformity,” (p 22, Thinking Sex).The qualifications of moral eligibility, however, need not include heterosexual, as does Rubin’s charmed circle--homosexuality remains repressed and is considered abnormal and unnatural, in accordance with the bottom of Ruben’s sexual hierarchy.Evaluate the people you meet on an individual basis and you’ll be a lot happier. Read more Seeking inspiration for finding your match?
Believe it or not, there are more differences WITHIN a culture than BETWEEN cultures…and research can back that up!
We cannot do much to change these OVERgeneralizing stereotypes on a global level, but we can talk about it. I have met Iranian men who break all the molds and American women who do too.
I believe that the world would be a much better place if we all approached things like children do, without superficial discrimination. I was raised in a traditional household and often felt that...
Now, perhaps if you were able to get statistics on the numbers of girls who were virgins in each culture, the numbers might be skewed in the direction of the more liberal culture.
However, I would also imagine that these statistics would be questionable unless obtained through physical exam since solely self-report would likely yield inaccurate data from the middle-eastern side.
Physiologically, in adolescence we are walking sex hormones, bubbling over and barely in control.