Intentionally manipulating a guy or playing games will always backfire because no guy wants to feel like he’s being yanked along on a destination-less journey.
So go out there and do your thing, be happy without him (whether him is in the picture or not), and let him be the icing on your perfect cake, rather than the flour, the eggs, the sugar and whatever other ingredients go into making a cake!Digital technology and smartphones in particular have transformed many aspects of our society, including how people seek out and establish romantic relationships.At this point, you may notice that he starts pulling away until he eventually pulls a swift Houdini on you, vanishing into the abyss without even uttering “abracadabra” to give you some warning!While guys enjoy the pursuit, they hate it when you act in a way that is deliberately trying to get them to chase you. And to be clear, that is not what I’m talking about here.And do not cancel any of these fun, meaningful activities just because he calls and wants to see you.
When you have a fulfilling life of your own that exists completely separate from him, you will automatically be seen as having great value.
So yes you want men to pursue you, and if you are confident this will naturally happen, but you don’t want to intentionally get him to chase you because this is just neediness all dressed up.
When you are truly confident and independent, he won’t take you for granted, he won’t vanish for days at a time, he won’t tell you he “doesn’t want a relationship” and continue treating you as girlfriend anyway – instead, he will lock it down because he’ll be too scared someone else will snatch you up if he doesn’t!
I am not saying get him to pursue you by acting unavailable, I’m saying actually be unavailable.
By that, I mean fill your life with fun, meaningful activities.
When you are this person, you won’t have to “play games” and will naturally activate a man’s natural desire to pursue.