Your family and friends are important and should not be tossed to the side or “ditched” just because you’re in a new relationship.
In fact, you can be inclusive with your partner, at a comfortable pace, but do not suffocate your partner with demands of spending time together and being joined at the hip.
It is not a time to “hide” things from your partner.If you have certain habits and regular activities such as smoking, or a regular card night with the boys, or going to Church on Sundays then you want to be honest and upfront and share with your partner things that are important to you and anything that is routine in your life.If you pull out all the stops up front, you will be struggling and challenged to keep it up.If you are yourself, you are comfortable and natural and this goes a lot further than pretending to be someone you’re not.What attracts most people to someone is the fact that they have a life!
What that means is that your life doesn’t revolve around your other half.
Too many people at the early stages make the mistake of dropping everything and being totally “on call” for their other half.
I can tell you that this is NOT a good move nor is it very healthy or attractive.
You will come across as phony and also confuse your partner when you stop with the charade.
If your goal is to be in a long-term relationship, then you would want to know that your new partner really likes you for who you truly are and accepts you as is.
An example of that would be if you said that you LIKED to travel when you are afraid of flying!