I have full faith that there are plenty of guys out there that fit the bill.
But to my friend’s point, some of them might not know it until they get friendly with some rather magical single moms (and when I say “moms,” I really mean me). While there lots of men who are open to dating women with children, many – most, probably – are not.
The best experiences in life are those that come with a big dose of magic. And let’s face it – any man willing to sign up for the shitshow that is often single motherhood will have to be rather magical. And anything you do for yourself feels like it takes away from their world. If we don’t give ourselves experiences that refuel us, adult activities that make us happy, it will be much harder to do the good work of parenting.What effect do outside activities like dating actually have on children in Single Parent homes? Bryson: When you add up all of the factors that determine whether your child is going to be happy and mentally healthy as an adult, the most important question to ask is, "Have they had a secure attachment with a loving caregiver who perceives and meets their needs a majority of the time? The concern that most parents should have is, "Am I taking care of myself enough to respond to those needs in a positive way? Ironically, we probably SHOULD feel guilty when we stop tending to our own needs. What if your children express a negative reaction to your interest and participation in meeting new people? Bryson: The first thing is to authentically and honestly talk with your child, and you can even do this with very young children in an age-appropriate way. "Mom’s going to spend time with friends, because it’s good for me.But he pointed out that if he met a woman in a bar who was his age, he’d she had kids.
Professional 35-year-old women hanging out in a New York City bar? As for my friend (and when I say “my friend,” I really do mean my friend), she’s hoping her love interest Googles her to find the readily available truth about her family status without further effort on her part. After all, what single mom couldn’t use a dose of absurd, slobbering (if innocent) attention from some swaggering members of New York’s bravest?When one tall blond asked us, “You girls must do really well in a place like this,” my SMILF friends and I shot knowing looks at one another. Now, a certain member of our posse caught the attention of one of these gentlemen, and her evening proceeded on a different path than the rest of us.After all, if these dudes a) took off their Yuengling goggles they might not call us “girls,” and b) were pelted with our full stories of lingering divorce proceedings and preschoolers tucked into bed at their fathers’ apartments for overnight visits, gone would be our free beverages and lingering (albeit out-of-focus) glances. Suffice it to say that his studio apartment was near the bar.After all, had she taken him home, he may have tripped on the Lightening Mc Queen collection populating the apartment and noted the California Baby wash in the bathroom.Meeting someone at work, by frequenting the same schwarma cart, on OKCupid, or through friends is an entirely different dynamic than chatting up guys at a bar. Lots of factors at play, and in our case, age is paramount.