the amount of love, commitment and investment you had in your relationship with your ex-boyfriend.
I'm not trying to generalize, but most of my female friends talk about past boyfriends, dissecting why their relationships didn't work.
From "he just doesn't get me" to "we're too different" to "why did we stay together THAT long," women tend to overanalyze past relationships.
Are you comfortable with your significant other being friends with an ex?
Editor's note: Audrey Irvine is a senior assignment manager for CNN.
If she’s not over it, it’s going to ruin your friendship, and you need to seriously consider that being making a move.
We already knew exes can spell trouble for relationships. When dealing with a case of the ex, there are generally two schools of thought.
First, there's the "We're just friends, it's harmless, I only have eyes for you" group of people, who believe friendships with ex-lovers cause no real harm.
On the opposite end are those (myself included) who feel that all ties with ex-boyfriends and girlfriends should be severed in order for new relationships to flourish.
It's even more dangerous if your boyfriend or girlfriend is still friends with their most recent ex, as a recent ex is a more viable alternative in the case of a split than an ex from several years ago.
Sure, a past lover can offer a sense of comfort, especially when a current romance hits rocky points.
It shows your friend that you respect her enough to consider her feelings before you go ahead with this.