The relationship took an emotional toll to the point where I was getting severe panic attacks. Nobody knew about the many deliberate close call, head-on collisions while he was threatening to "kill us both." Finally, after almost eight years of abuse, I knew I had to leave. I knew that if I continued on this path, I might never see the light through the darkness. I knew if I didn't leave I could fall back into the cycle.I ended up in the hospital a few times and was put in counseling but I never spoke about the abuse. Not because of some fight or big blowout, I was just done. I knew if I wanted any life at all, I had to choose me no matter what the cost.Everybody turned and looked at me in shock but nobody said a word. As we walked down the hall, he spit in my face, pulled my necklace off my neck, threw it in the trashcan and he threw me up against the lockers. It didn't begin immediately, in fact, there weren't any signs until we had been dating for almost a year.
It can be hard to tell when a behavior crosses the line from healthy to unhealthy or even abusive. Brittny’s father stepped in and ended the relationship for her.
Here are some things to be aware of: Social media adds enormous pressure -- the digital footprint that every young person lives with makes breaking up harder, sometimes humiliating. She now volunteers at the National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline.
Futures Without Violence has led the way and set the pace for ground-breaking education programs, national policy development, professional training programs, and public actions designed to end violence against women, children and families around the world.
Choose focuses on preventing dating abuse by educating 11- 14-year-olds about healthy relationships.
Created from tragedy, Dating Abuse Stops Here, or DASH, was created to inspire and inform a community.
The site offers fact sheets, information, and resources about teen dating abuse to help teens, their parents and friends understand more about this growing problem.It was easier to stay and suffer in private than to try to leave and be humiliated in public.I tried to leave a few times, he would threaten to commit suicide, or worse. I knew if I stayed, all of those dreams I had when I was a little girl would never be realized. I broke up with him and moved out of the state a week later.Students participating in Lincoln Sudbury High School’s Mentors in Violence Prevention program give a dramatic presentation to fellow students about the warning signs of dating abuse and breakup violence.Students with Boston’s Start Strong program aim to promote healthy relationships and prevent teen dating violence and Shawsheen Regional Technical High School’s dating awareness club meets weekly to discuss how to educate classmates about the dangers of dating abuse.It took many years to repair the mental and emotional damage, but I'm here to say that it is possible.