If they’re not calling you regularly or at all, and instead are opting for distanced means of communication, they are not that interested in you – they’re stoking your fire for when they next want your company.It doesn’t matter if it’s not what you want or you didn’t ‘verbally’ agree to it – by participating and acting like it’s a full on relationship, they end up getting more for less.
The article says this: “It’s a trend we’ve coined ‘premature escalation’…since our whole world is so instant now, people can craft entire personas through their slew of texts…’ texts, it’s on you to cut him or her off — nicely.” Saying something as simple as this should do the trick: “Hey—I’m not really a huge texter, but I’m really looking forward to seeing you on Wednesday! But just as I would never advise anyone to “friend” a potential date on Facebook before the first date, I would strongly advise you to just set up the date and go from there.The sooner you meet, the sooner you’ll know if there’s chemistry. Yes, you feel driven to spend every possible moment together, but that doesn’t mean you should.
It is important to maintain your own space and leave plenty of room for other important things in your life. It’s a conundrum: you’ve finally found someone who excites and intrigues you, and the feeling is mutual.As a side note—and I know I’ve said this before—if you’re cancelling the day of the date, especially if it’s within a few hours of when you’re supposed to meet each other, please do have the decency to call.Besides the never-ending text relationship that might form with no date in sight, by texting (or emailing) too much before the date, you run the risk of building a false impression of this person that may not equate to what he or she is like in real life.Here’s the hot tip: never make assumptions or trust in guesswork about each other when a direct question will suffice.To keep your relationship aloft long enough to truly soar, pay attention to your technique on take-off.Sex throws the switch on a wide range of issues better left until the emotional circuitry of your new relationship is ready to handle them. After all, what you really want is to throw away the planner and spend every second together.