For the last few months this has been by far the question I’ve received most often from readers.I had touched on a similar topic last year in my post my boyfriend has kept his online dating profile active.You’ve decided to try online dating and found yourself talking to a man that seems promising.
I get that idea and if he were actively looking to meet new people I could even agree…but if he’s only logging in to respond to new emails why not ?
His response actually makes me wonder if he even realizes that he could hide his profile.
My issue comes with him still having his profile up, and with my curiosity getting the best of me, I check almost everyday just to see when he last logged on – seems to be every few days or so.
I have read what you have written on this subject and I know you said that men are slower to remove their profiles than woman – so my question is how long is reasonable to wait for him to do this before you say something or begin to feel offended by it?
Perhaps not nice or courteous but not unfair either.
It’s especially bothersome if his actions suggest exclusivity even if he hasn’t declared so in words…and yet it is still acceptable in my mind for him to keep his profile up, even in this case.While I still believe what I wrote there, I’m finding that many of the women who are contacting me are not at the point where they are sure if the man is their “boyfriend” or not.With that in mind I wanted to review one of the recent emails I’ve received from a reader and offer some additional advice for this problem.When my profile was still up I did message him while he was online and made a little joke about him being there one day and his response was that when people make the effort they at least deserve a polite ‘no thank you’…but that’s been a month ago.I haven’t said one word about it since but I am wondering how long to wait.What You Do The one thing you shouldn’t do is verbally attack the guy or start throwing out ultimatums.