She writes, "At a time when there is so much societal pressure to stay young, this helps keep us feeling youthful.
It also helps us feel appreciated long after our children stop "needing" us to survive. Drexler makes the point that many mothers seek validation through their daughters.
A close, friendly mother-daughter relationship is not in itself a cause for concern.
Andrea has been divorced for over two years and she often goes on shopping trips with her 16-year-old daughter Maggie.
While they both enjoy many aspects of these outings, Maggie admits that her mom may be living vicariously through her.
I've written extensively about fathers and daughters and felt compelled to do so since this relationship is usually impacted the most by divorce.
If you've read my articles on this topic, you'll find that most daughters don't have the advantage of a close connection with their fathers after divorce.
Boundaries are an important part of any relationship, but they are especially critical for mothers and daughters after the breakup of a family.
As mothers, we want our daughters to grow up to be independent and self-confident.
This confusion may, in turn, may lead to behavior unrestricted by limits, on the part of either mother or daughter.
Research has attempted to explain and explore the variables contributing to these mother-daughter best friend relationships.
Lastly, accepting that your daughter is different from you and has her own personality, interests, and choices will help you to stay back while she learns from her mistakes.
You can't live through her or save her from the pain that comes with growing into womanhood -- but you can delight in her joys.
Within the past several decades, a shift has been observed in the relationship patterns of many mothers and daughters.