By the time they reach their twenties, most girls and guys value support, closeness, and communication, as well as passion.This is the time when people start thinking about finding someone they can commit to in the long run — a love that will last.
The third ingredient in a love relationship, commitment, is about wanting and deciding to stay together as a couple in the future — despite any changes and challenges that life brings.
Sometimes couples who fall in love in high school develop committed relationships that last. But it's not because teens aren't capable of deep loving.
We share secrets and personal stuff with them, we support them, and they stand by us. Attraction without closeness is more like a crush or infatuation.
You're attracted to someone physically but don't know the person well enough yet to feel the closeness that comes from sharing personal experiences and feelings.
Another reason we tend to have shorter relationships in our teens is because the things we want to get out of a romantic relationship change as we get a little older.
In our teens — especially for guys — relationships are mainly about physical attraction.
But by the time guys reach 20 or so, they rate a person's inner qualities as most important.
Teen girls emphasize closeness as most important — although they don't mind if a potential love interest is cute too!
Romantic love is when attraction and closeness are combined.
Lots of relationships grow out of an initial attraction (a crush or "love at first sight") and develop into closeness.
When people first experience falling in love, it often starts as attraction.