Whether you’re an old hand at online communication or a complete newcomer to the world of virtual connections, there are some questions worth bearing in mind when you’re trying to figure out if a match is worth getting to know.
So if everything you’ve been doing in your emails is ineffective – if everything that comes naturally to you is too dull – what ARE you to do? The other is called Opinion Openers, where, instead of stating a “me, too” fact (You like Bruce Springsteen? ), you offer your opinion – in which your personality shines through (Hey, if The Boss is from New Jersey, how come he sounds more like Woody Guthrie than Tony Soprano when he sings? So while I will acknowledge that being hot and stupid is more effective than being ugly and fascinating, the truth lies somewhere in between.
A great email will never make someone who doesn’t want to date you consider you, but it WILL tip the balance when someone is choosing between a dozen otherwise similar candidates.
We all want someone to set the tone and follow along, instead of realizing that we’re always setting the tone ourselves.
I realize that I’ve gone on a bit of a tangent from your original question, Dwayne, but this is important.
You’ve both taken the step to join e Harmony and will have had some experiences, both good and bad, that you can share with each other.
What someone relays about their experience can be quite revealing about them as a person.And yet most of us get online and wonder why it always feels so stale.It’s because YOU’RE making it stale, and you’re accepting stale conversation from others. I seem to run into this a lot and haven’t seen this addressed.In my first email, I usually ask a few questions and figure the female will answer them, which they usually do, but then they don’t ask anything of me but still seem interested.Who would a woman rather go out with – the boring lunkhead who asks for her number before he’s had a chance to charm her, or the witty guy whose every email she anticipates with delight? So do yourself a favor, Dwayne: stop beating up on yourself because she doesn’t sound interested.