We might still be together today if we (I) had waited.
I've seen this happen with countless relationships, not just others of my own, but those of many other people.
I stayed at her place in Brisbane, and we met up again in Amsterdam the following year.
Mainly because when I was in college, sex was my "god." As a male, it's what I thought about morning, noon and night. If you have, you should stop and consider, "Why is that?So you would imagine that having sex would have been completely fulfilling -- the crowning achievement in the worship of my "god." And yet, there was often a lack of fulfillment afterwards. Why is it that sex, if it's so important to me, leaves me with an empty feeling? I then concluded: "I just need more [sex], that's all." (We often think this way about stuff we hope will fulfill us, then doesn't.So, finally, I came to the conclusion that premarital sex wasn't all it's cracked up to be. Often a girl will justify sex by saying, "But I love him," even if she doesn't really want to go through with it. It's been said that, "Girls use sex to get love; guys use love to get sex." This is how it works: the girl is picturing marrying the guy some day; the guy is picturing everything he wants to do with the girl before he goes back to tell his buddies about it.And while something inside her is telling her it's the right thing to do, something inside the guy is telling him just the opposite, yet he proceeds. For the physical pleasure no doubt, but also, I think, for another reason: it makes him feel like a man.Right as it’s about to blossom, it’s time for you…or them…to go. When the group went out later, the girl and I talked mostly to each other.
But while relationships are difficult to keep, they happen. While talking to some other backpackers, a group of Swedish girls sat down next us. Four months later, we were saying goodbye in Bangkok as she boarded a flight back to Stockholm.You simply enjoy each others’ company for as long as it will last. Maybe it’s a few weeks up the east coast of Australia. But when they work, they are perfection (and I am envious of all my friends who have found it). I’d love to have a travel partner to explore the world with.Or maybe it is just that week together in Amsterdam. Maybe one day I’ll check into a hostel, find my counterpart, and we’ll travel the world together.When I was in college, I remember having an experience that I referred to as a "love hangover." After being with a girl, the next morning I always felt an emptiness.That's something you won't see on TV or in the movies, but it happens a lot. The "love hangover" was a strange occurrence for me.Bonds form very quickly on the road, whether a friendship or a relationship. That puts a lot of pressure on the relationship, and, most of the time, no one ever wants to think I’m a believer that if things are meant to be, they will work out.