A women changes her surname to her husband's upon marriage and her title changes from naangsao (“Miss”) to naang (“Missus”).
Some single rural men in Japan and South Korea are choosing wives based on pictures from catalogs of poor women in Thailand, the Philippines, Sri Lanka, Indonesia, Cambodia and other places. Sc., late 1990s; www2.hu-berlin.de/sexology/IES/thailand “In the Thai vocabulary, there are specific words for “love,” “lust,” “infatuation,” “love at first sight,” “sexual desire,” and so on.
Parental consent and the payment of a brideprice are generally needed before a wedding can take place.
Marriages have traditionally been regarded as unions of families.
Love marriages rather than arranged marriages and Western-style dating is the norm in urban Thailand.
In rural areas the custom of arranged marriages persists but is not as strong as it is some other Asian countries.
Sometimes, if the brideprice is too high, the couple secretly sleep together at the bride’s home and the parents are forced to approve the marriage to avoid losing face.
Choice of a marriage mate is usually based on the individual's preference.
A certain Western ethos is abundant in these novels, many of which are adaptations from the classics by Jane Austen, and Charlotte and Emily Bronte, for example.
However, the ethos, particularly the Victorian values for women and the chivalrous demeanor for men, seems congruent with the Thai conceptualizations of gender and heterosexual relationships, and therefore is not seen by contemporary Thais as foreign.
Cultural and class differences are also significant challenges, ranging from the relationship between a northern woman and a military officer from Bangkok in Sao Khruea Faa (which resembles M.
Butterfly), to the interracial love between a Thai woman and a Japanese soldier during World War II in Khuu Kam, to the intergenerational love between a young woman and a rich and handsome “playboy” many years older in Salakjit. Sc., late 1990s; www2.hu-berlin.de/sexology/IES/thailand “Flirtation between men and women is allowed, and although women are somewhat restricted by the kulasatrii notion, in numerous age-old courting songs, women are quite bold in making allusions to sex or outright marriage propositions.
Emphasis on women's virtues, such as the kulasatrii code, chastity, patience, and honesty, can be found across a variety of backgrounds and scenarios.