And you may be trying your best, but you’re not truly maximizing your potential. Which is like saying you’re going on a diet by cutting out sugar, but continuing to eat large portions of fried foods.In all likelihood, despite your efforts, I’m betting your profile can be better, your photos can be better, your responses to men could be better, your initial emails to men could be better, and your choices in men could be better. My recommendation – if you haven’t done it already – is to go through every word in Finding the One Online. You don’t have to quit online dating to meet men in real life.In other words, knowingly sends me matches that are probably not realistic for me to pursue.
It’s difficult to meet large numbers of men that way, but I’m starting to feel like my chance of making a non age-biased connection with a guy is only out in the real world.And the real-world opportunities can be few and far between. I can’t disagree with anything you’ve observed about online dating and age. So here are the facts: Older men have more options than older women (online and in real life) because they can usually date somewhat younger.I initiate contact with men in an age-range of about 3 years younger up to about 8 years older than myself.The potential matches that the site sends me are age appropriate for me, but when I look at the age-range that those men desire, (usually 35-50) I often move past them, knowing I can’t compete with women in their desired range, even though many of those men are as much as 5-8 years older than me!I don’t mean those men any disrespect, I just want to date a guy closer to my age so that I have a longer future with him, and I don’t feel that I should have to apologize for that.
I have taken your and others’ advice about profile writing, and I have great photos, so I feel confident that the problem is not in how I present myself. It always comes out eventually and I’d hate to have to explain myself then.
Most people who say they’ve taken my advice have only taken a few pieces of my advice.
Which is like saying you’re going on a diet by cutting out sugar, but continuing to eat large portions of fried foods.
Ive asked some of the guys my age who have contacted me as an “exception” about their success with their age range search.
It is often 10-20 years younger than them and these are very “average” appearing guys .
They have told me of their frustration with lack of responses.