So girls and guys must have drastically different experiences with online dating.
This should be the easiest thing in the world, but I can’t tell you how many people have written to me in French when it clearly states that I don’t speak French (apologetically) on my profile. smart, funny, etc.) BUT BE WARNED NEVER compliment a girl on something you can’t back up from her profile. No chick wants to hear that you love her in a first message. And the same goes for anything mushy, poetic, artsy, creative (unless funny) or that shows you wearing your delusional heart on your sleeve. So settle down, send a calm message, and hope for the best. of yours, do not give her a list of your latest accomplishments, a copy of your CV and the entire menu of your last night’s meal. The truth is, the first message is more about expressing your interest in her.
But the truth is, girls assume if you’re contacting her you think she’s attractive so it’s best to stick to compliments about something they said in their profile (or what you gathered about their personality ie. Don’t talk about how she seems super fun and upbeat if all her pictures are posed and straightfaced and her profile is laced with emo references and Twilight slang, etc. Keep it short, keep it simple, do not go over the top. I don’t know what romantic comedies lead you boys astray but come on. While it’s okay to mention a quality/characterisitc/hobby/skill/interest/etc.
And I know this seems tedious because you might message 10 chicks and only get 1 response back but it matters, and it’s probably what got the 1 chick.
But seriously, I know this seems obvious and straightforward but I can’t express how important this is…even if by the end, you’re still only messaging because you think she’s a babe. If you’re not reading it for you, you’re still reading it for her.
And this couldn’t be more true when it comes to contacting someone online.
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