It’s also imprudent to put too much personal detail in your ideal partner, such as “must not be a cheat” or ‘must like this particular activity in the boudoir’, as no doubt that says a lot more about you than it does about them.
“‘I’m a laid-back, easygoing guy…’ Such terms are practically meaningless.Even high-strung people often think they’re ‘laid-back.’ Find something more descriptive.” Other common terms to be avoided: “cool,” “awesome,” “funny.” “Nearly everyone ‘loves to laugh’ and ‘enjoys fun.’ None of that sets you apart. “Put yourself into a potential date's shoes on this one. ’ Blech—that conversation is a total wipeout.” A better alternative, she explains, is telling stories.Once it was: “Boy meets Girl,” and, depending on circumstance, “Boy gets (or does not get) Girl.” Now, it’s Boy posts profile. You never get a second chance to make a first impression.Bottom line: a dating profile—your first impression—is “sell copy,” and you’re the product being marketed.Whether you’re hankering after a pistol grip for that vintage Hasselblad single reflex camera, or want to learn all the lyrics to R. M.’s “It’s the End of the World as We Know it,” the World Wide Web has made tracking down and securing even the most obscure objects your heart desires a lot easier.
Yet, when it comes to online matters of the heart, finding “the one” often remains elusive.In short, photographic honesty is always the best policy.Once you’ve carefully selected your photos, it’s time to knuckle down to the sales pitch.On the shallowest level, we all want to get a visual approximation of attractiveness.And I don’t mean shots with you and your ex, ‘hilarious’ pictures of you on a drunken night out or extreme close ups of individual parts of your face.And when defining interests, it takes a little more effort than listing ‘sport, film, music and travel’ – I challenge anyone to not like a single sport, film, song or holiday destination. Don’t keep this too broad – you may seem rather desperate if you say you’re looking for someone between the ages of 18 and 80; show a little selectiveness lest you’re damned for using too wide a net to catch too many fish.